5 Mistakes to Avoid When Planning Your Wedding Day

If you’re planning a destination wedding, you’re likely dreaming of amazing landscapes, experiencing beautiful cultures, and a relaxing atmosphere for you and your guests. You will want to make sure that all of your efforts and plans are not only worthwhile for you and your future spouse, but for all of your guests who are travelling to be with you on this day. Do not make these 5 mistakes when planning your wedding – or you may only end up annoying your wedding guests!

Mistake #1 – Giving speeches that are too long

Wedding Speech
While you probably have lots of people to thank and special things you want to say, keep your total speech time to 30 minutes or less. If you have a lot of people who want to say things, such as bridesmaids or parents, arrange the speaking times so that you have at least one course of food served before starting. This way your guests will be able to eat while they listen and the time of the speech won’t interrupt the flow of the reception.
While it may seem easy to keep the speech time to 30 minutes or less, plan ahead for ways to make certain this happens. One of our recent couples insisted on giving their speeches before the food was served and they thought 25 minutes would be enough time. One hour and 45 minutes later the speeches were finally over and the food could be served! This created not only annoyed guests who were hungry and honestly tired of listening, but a frustrated chef who had to try to keep all of the meals warm. To make things worse, as soon as the speeches were over all of the 60 guests immediately got up and rushed to the bathrooms, to the bar for a drink, or just to stretch. This further delay only made the planning for the rest of the evening more difficult. Plan for 30 minutes or less, do not start speaking until at least one course is served, and arrange for someone to politely signal you to finish the speech after your time expires.

Mistake #2 – Having too much time between the ceremony and reception


Time between the ceremony and reception is usually reserved for taking photos with family members, thanking guests for coming, and having appetizers and a drink, and perhaps moving from one location to another. A reasonable timeframe for these activities is 1 to 1.5 hours, and it is highly recommended you do not exceed 2 hours. The longer this break between activities is, the more likely it is that your guests will get tired, bored, and annoyed. Another risk you take with a lot of time between events, especially with bar service available, is that guests will be drunk by the time dinner is served. This makes for a long and frustrating night for the servers at your dinner, but also for you as the couple.

Mistake #3 – Failing to carefully plan the entertainment

Wedding Entertainment
Your entertainment choices will be one of the key ingredients to making your wedding day a success, but you have to know how to avoid pitfalls of failing to carefully plan for your music and other extras. Lively entertainment is usually enjoyed most after the dinner has been served and guests have had a chance to eat and enjoy a cocktail, so save the louder music and things like light shows until that time. During the dinner I suggest having a pleasant instrumental playing in the background, such as a duo of violin and guitar or violin and piano. I have some amazing suggestions if you are looking for something such as this! If you are arranging for other entertainment, such as activities for children or multimedia extras, be sure that these are planned for times when guests aren’t trying to concentrate on things like your wedding toasts or eating the first course of the meal.

Mistake #4 – Failing to plan for the elements

Wedding Weather
While you can’t be expected to predict the weather, especially months in advance, when planning a destination wedding in Malta you can pay attention to typical weather patterns – and the pests those weather patterns bring, too. Be sure to check with your wedding planner or other locals who have experience to determine how weather will affect your events. During the warmest months of the year the sun can be very warm, especially during mid-day. Your guests could be extremely uncomfortable and your decorations might even suffer.
The weather also plays a role in pests that might want to join your wedding ceremony or reception. In August Malta is home to a heavy mosquito and fly population. While we as wedding planners can do a lot to deter the mosquitos from your outdoor events, the flies are another matter. The last thing you want to do is serve the meal to your guests with a side of flies! Yes, Malta is a beautiful location for weddings, but be sure you plan for the elements by timing your events to avoid these elements.

Mistake #5 – Serving a mini-meal

Wedding meal
Food is an international language – people everywhere eat and most people associate amazing food with amazing experiences. While some couples might be tempted to serve a light meal in order to save time or costs, this is a big mistake. This is where your wedding planner and caterer can help you develop a meal that will not only fit your budget, but still impress your guests. If you are determined to only serve a mini-meal, be sure to inform guests on the invitation that the reception only involves appetizers or something such as that. Otherwise, guests expect a full meal where they can enjoy the scenery and visit with you and other guests.

Have you ever been annoyed by one of these mistakes at a wedding? Please leave your thoughts below!